I CAN COUNT!… Can you Really Count?!

Hey Ladies….
And yes, the Gentlemen are not left out even though my intention for this article is to rescue the Female Gender from a self-imposed prison called Pre-marital-Sex…

Before we get into the discussion proper, I won’t ignore the fact that Depression Is REAL! Over the years we have been hearing about depression but we seldom hear cases of suicide in Nigeria until the last 5yrs. Depression is the reason why people indulge in several habits/addictions ranging from sex to drugs and alcohol. We have seen on the internet and even heard in the news how people end their lives by their self and some are family men/women.

My message to you today is to learn how to CARE for people. Depression grows when isolation grows. Depression becomes stronger when people care-less. Depression will not thrive if people show concern. There are so  many depressed people living around you, today choose to say “HELLO or HI” to that neighbour; that guy or lady living on the next street. Choose to see beyond yourself and start seeing others.

NOTE: Depression can only prevail when you are self-consumed. (Selfish)

I’m already convinced that you have been motivated to be a carrier of hope, comfort, courage and motivation to the weak, lonely and ignored guy or lady around the corner….

Alright that’s now off the way!
Shall we get this ball rolling already?

Have you ever heard the phrase: “Woman of easy virtue?” 
Aka “the yes women”

Dear Ladies, in all the (sexual) transactions between males and females, you are always at the losing end of the bargain. Another truth you need to know is that every time you open up your vagina to any male who is not legally married to you, you are reducing your value.
Men will respect and even pay more for a well packaged (wrapped) gift than an opened, easy to get.
“If sex is all you have to offer, what else can you give a man, that someone else can’t do better?”

Do you know that the vagina is the deepest part of your body as a female?
Apart from this, it’s the only gateway that connects your soul with anybody who gains access into you from there. (1Corinthians 6:16: “or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? for ” the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.”  I wish to educate you today and I pray that you get the message and make a decision to repent (Turn around) in Jesus name Amen.

And so, I have been on and about this topic in various online platforms, from FB to InstaGram and even several whatsapp groups. The truth is, premarital sex is no longer a secret or something to be shy about, especially amongst teenagers and singles. I remembered some years back, someone sent me a link to view and when I clicked on the link, it took me to a site named after a secondary school subject which was practically a porn-site. But the difference which got me overwhelmed was the fact that it was strictly for secondary schools around africa.

It was well-organized so that you can easily locate your country, state and school. Although I was in pains (heartaches) while viewing this site, I still took my time to watch some of the uploaded videos. These are my observations:

1- The male students kept their identities off the camera.
2- The female students were fully captured without any masks or covering over their faces.
3- The teenage boys were recklessly hurting these girls and they were all laughing.
4- They were having unprotected sexual intercourse with each other.
5- They have a section where only sex-parties were uploaded (teenagers)
6- most of them were watching porn on their laptops and mobile phones while practicing with each other.
7- For every uploads, they get paid as much as $2,500  (Two thousand, five hundred dollars)
8- Some of the videos had adults featured, these adults were identified as class teachers.
9- They were either smoking or drinking alcohol.
10- They have another section where only videos of rape/gang-rape and forced sex is uploaded. And i also noticed that the person handling the camera never shows the faces of the teenage boys, but only the faces of the teenage girls.

Just to mention but a few. The world is corrupt and the devil is making sure the truth is kept away from his victims. Teenagers are the next target.
I have been to places where I get steady and constant sexual advances from teenagers. Not even adults. I was in a secondary school with a colleague of mine to handle a dance/aerobic classes, when we got there we were told that once it’s passed 7pm, usually nobody is safe to go out so we  may have to lodge in the school (it was a boarding school) we agreed until we had our first contact with the students only to change our minds after seeing the shameless and desperate show of sexual invitation….note, these are teenage girls who were between the ages of 13yrs-15yrs.

Sex is legal only under the covenant of marriage, but anything outside marriage is a trap. The reason why I titled this article with what sounded like a question is because of what I am about to share with you now…please follow me.

Are you sure you can count?!
Speaking to a lady sometime last month (November) and she said to me: ‘Sir i can count how many guys i’ve slept with.’ So I asked her this same question: Can you really count?!
There is a high chance that the guys having sex with you have had sex with someone else who has had sex with another person who is still having sex with another person; and the connection goes on.
For every male you allow to gain access into you, you have collected a part of that man. You can break-up physically, but your souls are still together. I have counseled countless females who still can’t get over their Ex’s. They claimed to be disconnected, but the more I prob, the more they reveal their Ex to me.

The irony of this kind of experience is that; these females have no clue of how much of their Ex (s) they have acquired. Some have been in a relationship that lasted 4yrs and above, with doing practically everything thinkable and unimaginable with each other. And these people sincerely think that a breakup is a closed chapter! WOW…….!

I started this writeup talking about depression because I have spoken with more depressed teenage-girls than depressed adults within the last 9 months. 90% of these teenagers are sexually active and about 70% have multiple sexual partners. About 20% are Lesbians while the remaining percent have had abusive relationships with adults. (these are teenage girls who do not date teenage boys but adults/men)

So I don’t just point out the problems, let me help you with some practical steps to be a free girl/lady.
(The guys may be thinking that I don’t have them in the plan, calm down, your own lesson is coming..)

A – You need to talk to somebody:
Now please, I’m not talking about your friends here, I’m talking about an adult with the capacity (maturity + experience) to help you. Depression starts subtly so you don’t even know that you are already a victim. You’ll just notice that things you’ll naturally detest, reject or refuse are now the very things that you find attractive, interesting and fascinating..
Please, talk to an adult preferably a counselor the moment you find yourself questioning your actions….

B – You need to Enter a Relationship with Jesus.
The wise cry to Jesus when they are overwhelmed with the cares of this life and feeling too weak to carry on. If you are yet to give your life to Jesus, say this prayers with me quickly so that you can begin your journey to permanent freedom from the chains of sin and death:

Lord Jesus,
Come into my life.
I admit that I have lost my way,
I have come to say I am sorry.
Have mercy on my Oh Lord.
Today, I accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.
Today I am Bord Again.
I forsake my sin and promise to never go back.
I receive your Grace to keep on serving you until you return.
In Jesus name..
AMEN.

If you have just said this prayers, I welcome you into the family of Champions.. We never lose any battle because God is a winner man.

C – Change your Playlist.
As a female, you can’t continue to listen to songs that tells guys you’re a sex toy. You can’t have videos that only shows females half-naked or totally naked.
Whoever you listen to has the power to control you. So chose to listen to songs that motivates you, encourages you and empowers your mind to picture a beautiful future. If an artist or music does not remind you of God’s master piece (Women) and how priceless you are; If the songs will not tell you that you are Royalty and highly esteemed, PLEASE DELETE it.

Music will control your life. If you have songs that only talks about sex and how to be sexy, my dear, you will only be good enough for sex and nothing more… And if sex is all you’re good for, why should a man marry you? It’s not that the man will be horny (strong sexual urge) forever!
Close your eyes and delete songs that curses people and calls you a “Bitch”. Girlfriend, you are a human being, not a female dog. Bitch is not a good word, forget the lies that says as long as it’s coming from your pal or friends, makes the word bitch harmless….. Hello! Words are powerful and you will become what you’re called.

God created the Heavens and earth by speaking……..and if you and I were created by God, I’m sure you already know how God expects us to create our destinies…. Delete those songs Now!

D – It’s very Alright to Quit Social Media:
As an adult, I have an application (apparently it came with my phone) which tells me how long I have spent on the internet. From the moment I discovered the function of that application, what I did was to program my time/day.

“Social media fuels depression” #FACT!

Why do you need to be on social media as a teenager or a jobless lady?
I can’t put a number to how many females who have asked me to send them call card or money to buy data..some I don’t even know when we became friends on FB or Instagram.

Do you have to beg?
Females are the ones handing over the authority to their male counterpats to insult and devalue them by their behavior on social media.
Some will even offer to send their nude pictures for as low as #500 (Five hundred naira) just so they can fund their social media addiction…

I am a business man, I have been offline for a month and sometimes, I intentionally delay my subscription renewal by a week or some days just to remind myself that I am still in Charge of my Life, Time and Happiness…
No, I am not going to miss any business opportunities because I also have my contact numbers on all my social media platforms too.

You can do without social media Girlfriends…..not everyone is on instagram, Facebook, Twitter or SnapChat. You don’t have to be there.. IT DOESN’T MAKE YOU ABNORMAL AT ALL.

E – End that Relationship if you’re a TEENAGER.
Dear teenagers, Please, you don’t need a boyfriend while in school. Your parents had a plan for putting you in school and the earlier you catch that reason, the easier your life as a student will become.
Academics should be your focus and priority, not romance or sex. Your mind and heart are not developed enough to understand, neither do you have the capacity to manage or reciprocate Love.

Being a sexuality advocate for about 11yrs, I can categorically tell you that the only thing teenagers get in relationships is sex, more sex and only sex. Teenagers play with their bodies in the name of Love. They abuse their dignity simply because they lack knowledge in this area.
They commit fornication and soil their conscience making them live in constant guilt which makes them a slave to one boy/man who will never see or value them beyond a sex-toy.
Teenage girls are irrational, selfish and shortsighted while the teenage boys are shortsighted, erratic and ignorant. Trust me, these two combination can never produce a beautiful life… So many tenagers have had multiple heartbreaks that they have messed up their emotions.

Oh, you may say that you have seen a case of married people who started as teenagers; Yes, you are right, but I have also seen countless cases of pregnant teenage girls, abused teenage girls, depressed teenage girls, raped teenage girls, drugged teenage girls and even dead teenage girls…

There are so much I want to talk on this matter but I will leave it for the Boys lesson coming up soon……WATCH THIS PAGE..

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